Texas Singles | 6 Real Reasons You Can't Find Love in Houston

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If you’ve been in the dating scene for a long time and you’re still single, the frustration can be enough to make you go insane. That nagging question just gets louder and louder…”Is it me?”

You’re wonderful, and we wouldn’t tell you that unless we thought we could help you… But yes, maybe – it might be you who is the problem here.

There are a lot of bad habits that Texas singles fall into, and if you’re guilty of one or two of them, recognizing it and nipping it in the bud will be the best thing you can do to welcome love into your life. If you’re still single and searching, here a few things to watch out for that could be playing a role in why you’re single today.

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1. You’re trying too hard.

Trying to hard can come out in many different ways, shapes, and forms – from being too eager, to trying to impress someone too much, or simply sending too many texts. But a good way to tell if you’re trying too hard is to take a look at your anxiety levels as you’re dating someone. People who are overly nervous about the success of a relationship tend to act overeager in many ways, which can put too much pressure on your new love interest.

2. You’d rather have anything over being single.

If you’ve romanticized the idea of having that special someone in your life, to the degree that you lose sight of what a healthy relationship should look like, this could a problem. Settling for less than you deserve won’t help you have a long-lasting relationship. Make a list of all the traits you desire in a partner, along with your non-negotiables, and never settle for less.

3. You’re hurt from previous relationships.

Self-preservation can come out at weird times – you don’t even realize you’re doing it. If you’ve gotten out of a bad relationship and find that you’re afraid you’ll be hurt again or that you’ll repeat the same mistake from the past, you may be sabotaging your own dating life.

Being ready for a relationship after a breakup can take a long time, and if you find that you’re not quite ready, that’s okay, regardless of the pressure that friends and family may be putting on you. You need to work on yourself first before you can start dating.

4. Your expectations are sky high.

While you should never settle for less than you deserve, it’s important to understand that everyone is a human, and people make mistakes, especially people who are just starting to date. If you find yourself lusting after a Hollywood movie romance, but are perpetually disappointed in your real life dating options because they don’t match those high expectations, you may just need a reality check.

5. Your expectation are too low.

Just like having high expectations won’t help you find love, having low expectations can cause you not to try at all. If you write off everyone you meet as heartbreakers, you may be afraid to put yourself out there. If you find yourself saying, “They’re great, but they’ll never interest me,” then you need to find a way to boost your self-esteem. You need to work up the courage to try in your romantic life.

6. You look for love in all the wrong places.

If you’re attracted to muscular hunks and pick up all your dates at the local gym, and then get disappointed when all they care about is lifting weights and eating protein, then you need to broaden your horizons. If you only ever go out at certain bar, and the clientele there tends to be high spenders and you can only afford to hang out with them for a week, Google a place that’s a little bit cheaper.

Mixing it up isn’t guaranteed to be fruitful, but if you’re stuck in a dating rut and can’t find love at your regular places, you need to think outside the box and try something new. Perhaps joining a dating service and letting them do the hard part of dating for you is the simplest and fastest track to real love.

If you’re ready to start meeting quality Texas singles, contact our Houston matchmakers today and let us do the hard part of dating for you. To reserve your FREE (90-minute) matchmaking consultation, simply fill out the confidential form at the top of the page today.

 

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